A Valentine's Heart

I see a certain connection between Christmas and Valentine's Day. In one we celebrate the love of God for us, and in the other we celebrate our love for each other.

But love takes different shapes and forms. We love our spouses and significant others in a different way than we love our children, parents, siblings, etc. So while Valentine's Day is a time when we celebrate love for one another we often focus on love as it is manifested romantically or in shared affection in family. But Jesus calls us to a different love for each other. It is a love that takes form in a different word (in Greek) and in a different way.

The love Christ calls us to is sacrificial. It is a love that is given even when there is little or no chance for a return. Agape (the Greek word) is often referred to with definitions such as unconditional, but I prefer this definition: agape does what is best for another, whether or not there is any emotional bond or any hope for a return.

The love that we, as humans, tend to share most easily is based in emotion and is most often reciprocal. I love someone who loves me back. It is instinctive. I would qualify that, though, by saying that this kind of love must include the sacrificial elements of agape if it is going to be successful. But to love those who don't love us, or even more, to love those who hate, betray or are our enemies? This is not as easy. Jesus moves us to a higher calling - love your enemy, pray for those who persecute, and for those who demand something from you, do that and then do more. "For if you only love those who love you what reward do you have? Even tax collectors and sinners do the same" (Mt. 5:46, Lk 6:32).

In the past weeks we, as a church, have had many of our family in the hospitals or struggling with other issues and I have seen amazing acts of love from many of those in our church family. Today we will celebrate the love we share in our own families. As we continue to share love for each other in our families and in our church families, I encourage us to remember that there are hurting folks in our world who need the kind of love that only those who follow the Way of Jesus can give. I encourage us to continue to strive to reach out in love to bring people to faith and to give them hope. It is love that has called us in Jesus, love that binds us as family, and love that is the greatest thing we offer to the world. Love is the Way of Christ, and it must be the way of those who follow. Happy Valentine's Day!!